Tis the Season to be Jolly!

 When you set out on your seasonal celebrations this year, where will you draw the line between being merry and completely off your face?

Picture the scene:

You’re on a shopping trip to buy a new dress for a wedding.  A spring wedding of friends you love dearly.

A prestigious shop has given you the services of a professional shopper and she has brought several outfits for you to try on.

The first dress clings unflatteringly to your body, looks and feels hideous.

The next is dark and heavy followed by a tiny luminous and loud creation.

The professional shopper is confident you will buy one of these outfits.  You have no desire to offend this person and neither do you want to feel uncomfortable, experience ridicule or look unattractive by wearing any of the dresses.

Thanks, but no thanks is your response.

In social situations we can become susceptible to the persuasions of others.  Over indulging in food can lead to remorseful emotions.  Going over our limits with alcohol or other substances can be even more costly.

The next time someone insists you ‘have another’ imagine that they are really asking you to wear that hideous dress.  The one that has the potential to strip you of your dignity and create a great dent in your self esteem.  This can help you say ‘no thanks’ with more resolve and reduce their ability to persist and persuade you otherwise.

POTENTIALLY FABULOUS

For those who want to be ACC – Attractive, Confident, Competent

Picture this:
Plain looking women with flat hair, baggy clothes and drooping shoulders shuffles by. Then we get one of those Hollywood moments when she stands tall, shakes her hair out and reveals luscious shiny locks. She sheds the oversize cardigan permitting vivid shapeliness to shine forth, a beauty revealed.
An old cliché or attainable performance?
Many women disguise wonderful assets for a multitude of reasons. Some may not recognise their own beauty and believe no one would want to see them. They may be aware of special talents and prefer not to display them for fear of upsetting others.
Many excuses are available when challenged about this state of affairs,
such as

• I wore red once and it didn’t work
• If I wear a skirt I will need to wear heals (no can do)
• People will think I am trying to hard to impress
• Martha said I will never be a beauty
• I am the funny one, no one expects me to ……..

Whatever the belief that holds you in chrysalis formation you can break free. When you accept a label, designed by other people’s opinions, you will stunt your growth in all areas. If you are unable to accept the real you then others will never meet her or be given the chance to accept her. This is not a chicken or the egg scenario.
Get to know the inner you and shed the emotional baggage that holds you back.
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More than A Girls Best Friend

I have been asked about the use of the diamond in my logo and wanted to share my thoughts with you. Yes the diamond is beautiful and precious just like you and me. My question is ‘is it any less so when lying in the ground’? The raw material.
This diamond can look unimpressive and possibly dull. We are all aware that with a little attention and polish it will dazzle its admirers.
Because of its look it is used to adorn, express love and show wealth. Also undeniably strong and relied upon in precision engineering.
Given the right attention we too can shine as we have the potential within.
If you are feeling worthless, lost or simply undiscovered think of the diamond.
Is it any less valuable when lying in the ground?
I want my clients to establish super confidence, shed unwanted baggage and fly high and far. They make life work for them by maximising their potential and living their dreams.
With a little help you can too.

Peace of Mind

When we are more in-tune with our emotions we raise our level of awareness.
With awareness we are able to move away from worrying or constantly thinking about our feelings. We are better placed to drop apportioning blame to friends, family or ourselves for our own unhappy thoughts.
When we are more in control of our runaway thoughts we can then face our feelings and address the emotions they evoke. What we feel is very much a part of us and denying, avoiding or blaming others will not bring the peace of mind we seek.

Combat Procrastination

We can all fall victim to a bout of procrastination from time to time. Generally putting off until later something we consider arduous, tedious or challenging. When this process of avoidance is limiting progress in a project or affecting daily life, you may want to take action. With your eye on the prize you are more likely to avoid procrastination if you employ the following:

FOCUS – Deciding what you want, and when you want it by, will improve your motivation.
PLAN – have a realistic and well timed set of actions to achieve your goals.
WORRY – spending time thinking about the possible downside or consequences will drain your energy. If you consider that only 2% of what we worry about may happen, you can decide not to waste this time. If there are real pitfalls ensure you plan for those events and move on.
FEAR – Use this heightened state of alert in a productive way. Being aware of your back up plan will help you move forward.
TRUST – Be aware of who can help you achieve your goals. Consider your own experience and draw on your strengths and skills used in the past.
DESIRE – Review your goal if you succumb to procrastination. Is it what you truly want? Formulating a strong goal and reminding yourself why you want it will strengthen your resolve. You can find help with this in my free coaching tool.
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Count your Blessings

We can be overwhelmed by the kindness of strangers yet overlook the daily service and attention of those closest to us.
Constantly looking beyond our immediate environment, to the far horizon, we become blind to the wonder of our lives. A few seconds is sometimes all it takes to swell your heart. You have the power within you to enrich this, and every day.

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